I had an interesting conversation with my friend J last night. She was asking about how things were going with Engineer Boy. I had a second date with him on Monday after work. It was just me hanging out at his place. We watched Zombieland and some tv. Talked a bunch. It was very nice, very relaxed. His dog is adorable and I think I scored major points because I am such an animal person.
It was nice - very comfortable - dare I say, domestic even. Initially a bit awkward and also I was a bit annoyed when he was texting like crazy on his phone. I think he saw my face at one point though because then he suddenly explained that his friend just lost his job and was bored out of his mind. It was weird though - we were sitting on the couch but it was one of those L-shaped ones, so he was on the one side sprawled out and I was on the other.
I think his roommate hid in his room the whole time which was kindda weird cause we didn't even do anything. We didn't even cuddle lol! Anyways - he only made a move when I was leaving and standing awkwardly in his hallway. Then he sort of went "come here" and pulled me in for a kiss so we stood in his front hall kissing/making out for a bit, but I think he's going to keep it slow which is more than ok by me. But it's a bit weird at the same time. I mean - he kept his hands above the waist the entire time and it took awhile for the kissing to progress to anything deeper. At one point we broke apart slightly and he kissed my forehead which was really cute.
Here's the thing though - that was date number two. We have a date planned for tomorrow - a double date in fact. I'm bringing a friend for his roommate who also happens to be his best friend. And the boys are cooking us dinner. I said I'd bring the wine - figured it was a valid contribution.
Anyways - Engineer Boy had invited J and her new bf (his friend), but they can't come cause J has work until late. However, I guess after her boy got the invite he asked her if she knew what the status was with me and Engineer Boy. So she asked me.
This made me feel incredibly awkward. Not because I don't know, but because I hadn't really given it much thought. I don't think you can really decide on a label and the level of commitment this early on when you barely know each other. At least not really anyway. I mean - he and I haven't had any kind of conversation about what we're after. And I hope we don't for some time yet. I realized suddenly following my conversation with J that my "whatever" attitude towards the whole thing wasn't very typical - at least not for a girl. When I started to think about it I realized a lot of it has to do with the fact that we are still getting to know each other.
But then J started on about how she and her guy had the conversation very early on about what they were looking for etc and I realized that's just not how I work. Maybe I would feel differently if I wasn't still kindda torn between Engineer Boy and my feelings for Work Boy - who has suddenly stepped up his game a bit too in random little ways it seems. But I really doubt it. I don't want to suddenly be in some sort of labeled commitment/relationship just because the guy happened to ask me out. Engineer Boy seems to be taking it slow and I'm ok with that. I don't need a label right now.
It's weird though because overall he's the obvious pursuer in whatever it is that we're doing. I'm not used to that. I don't think I've ever been obviously pursued in such a way. To be honest - it's making me extremely flighty. He tends to be the one to text me first and tends to be the one to text last. I do like the attention but I'm not used to it.
In any event - the boys are making dinner tomorrow and it should be fun. But I still don't need a label at the moment and I'm happy to see hwo things go.
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