First Date

So...I went on a date last night. With the guy I met on Friday. We'd been texting since Monday when I got back from the states where I was visiting my grandma in hospital. He'd actually texted Sunday night but my phone was off to avoid roaming charges. Anyways - we kept texting Monday/Tuesday, Tuesday night in particular after I got home from soccer. We were trying to figure out when we could go out, but I have a game Friday and he might be out of town Saturday. But then yesterday rolled around...

He texted and I got it much later when on a whim I checked my personal phone between visiting my camps. His plans for the evening had canceled and was I free. I waited until I got home to respond because I had to think about if I could justify going out when I had a lot of paperwork that I'm behind on. Well...I decided to go.

So he picked me up just after 6 - with only minor awkwardness from the parents at the door and we went to see Inception. We went early, not knowing which movie/time we were going to. So we had about 30 minutes before the movie started to talk and what not. Conversation was ok. Movie was pretty good. Afterwards we went for drinks, but I wimped out and got a decafe coffee cause I just had a bad feeling with my nerves making my stomach uneasy. When I get really nervous/anxious I can get physically ill...which sometimes means vomitting and little things - particularly alcohol set me off. However, I also know that milk/dairy has a similar effect at times. So just in case, I made the cover early on about the milk as I poured it in saying "I probably shouldn't be having milk so late, but whatever." I was fine, just more exhausted then anything so we bailed at about 10ish. Then sat in my driveway in his car talking for awhile when he dropped me off.

Overall...it was an ok date. I don't really date so I don't have much to compare it to. However...I did start comparing him to my work husband/crush. One noticeable difference that is bad news for Engineer Boy? He can't seem to really make me laugh the same way as Work Boy.

Now that's not to say we didn't have some good conversation. There were minor awkward moments - like when he was asking what my parents do and then I asked him and after he replied he got kindda silent...then throws out that he hasn't spoken to his father in like 3 years.

And I mean I guess he wasn't lying when he was saying he's kindda shy cause I could definitely sense that was part of it at times - and I know I'm a bit much and over the top. It's also how I tend to deal with awkwardness. it gets compounded in those situations. And I mean, he is nice. He was really surprised when I flat out said "No - I'm buying the drinks because you paid for the movies." So I dunno how he took it with that move in particular.

We did kiss when he dropped me off though. But it was the most awkward kiss lead-up I think I've ever experienced. I was going to get out and he's kindda like "Ok - kiss?" So I did lean over and kiss him, but who just asks like that? You set the moment and it happens usually. And it was ok, but it didn't make me go "oh wow" by any means.

And other little things that in conversation that came up that aren't really deal breakers by any means but worthy of attention cause it could lead to problems. Like he said he's a bit of a neat freak. Then also says he's a bit of a control freak. Stuff like that. The latter was when he was driving me home and we were talking about the tortures of packing and he was like "I prefer to just do it myself cause I'm a bit of a control freak." Whenever something like that comes out it's a big red flag for me because I don't do well with people telling me what to do. At all.

So I dunno. I would give him a second chance, but compounding the issue is Work Crush.

I even spent a good chunk of this week with Work Crush. Tuesday I had to pick soemthing up so I hung out and talked to him for awhile killing time. Wednesday we had to meet with our supervisor and another co-ordinator but for quite awhile it was the two of us being stupid together. And then I also saw him at the end of the day when i dropped my staff off at his camp - and this was after I'd already seen the text from Engineer Boy. I think Work Crush knows something is up and he needs to do something. We'll see.